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3 Simple Steps to Reinvent Your Extraordinary Life

Craig Stanland
4 min readJan 17, 2025

76% of people die with the same regret.

“Not fulfilling their ideal self.”

This is from a Cornell study conducted a few years back.

The “ideal self” is the attributes you would ideally like to possess, such as hopes, goals, aspirations, or wishes.

It’s the forsaken dreams, romantic interests not pursued, and choosing the “safe” job instead of the adventurous position.

It ties nicely to the #1 regret of the dying, according to Bronnie Ware:

“I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.”

So, how do you become the minority?

How do you become the 24%?

First, we must understand that we have two double whammies to contend with.

1. Our lizard brains.

Our deepest human need is to survive.

Our brains are survival machines and nothing more. They’re designed to keep us alive.

As part of this hard-wiring, we’re also efficiency machines.

Our brains seek the path of least resistance. It’s a primal desire to conserve calories to ensure our survival.

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Craig Stanland
Craig Stanland

Written by Craig Stanland

From corporate success to federal prison, I share my journey to rediscover joy, meaning, and purpose. Join me in reinventing your extraordinary second act!

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