Here Are 3 Simple Steps to Stop Escaping Life and Instead Create Your Life

Craig Stanland
5 min readJan 23, 2023

Humans are hardwired to avoid and escape pain.

As such, we seek the fastest, most efficient route to avoid and escape.

We seek short-term fixes in lieu of long-term solutions and inner peace.

When our lives are unfulfilling, when we know we’re not filling our full potential, when we ask, “Is this all there is?” or “Aren’t I meant for more?”, we’re experiencing pain.

Our soul’s deepest desire is to create meaning; it’s intrinsic to us.

One of the ways we create meaning is to pursue our Life’s Calling, fueled by our mission.

I delineate the two as:

A Life’s Calling is the task (writing, speaking, teaching, composing, sculpting, etc.).

The mission is the why (serving something more significant than ourselves).

Combined, they are the energy that shoots us out of bed each morning and that we’re willing to put it all on the line for.

The pain we experience, the angst, the frustration, the disillusionment, the sense of betrayal (I did all the things I was supposed to do, WTF?), and the emptiness are products of not having a calling and mission or having a calling and mission — but being paralyzed by…

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Craig Stanland

I write about my journey from corporate success to federal prison and finding joy, mission, meaning, and fulfillment beyond professional and financial success.