Negative Judgements Can Hurt, or They Can Heal. The Choice is Yours to Make

This is an accurate depiction of how I felt after my arrest.

I’m honored to be a member of a White Collar Support Group lead by my dear friend, Jeff Grant.

We meet every Monday, and the topics vary; however, a few issues rise above the rest.

One of those issues is Judgements, particularly as it relates to our family and friends trying to reconcile our choices and actions.

This article was written with the group in mind, however it’s lessons apply to everyone.

The author Cheri Huber stated the following in her wonderful book, “There Is Nothing Wrong With You,”

“When you judge someone else it’s simply self-hate projected outward.”

When I look at my own judgments of others, she’s right.

However, there is another component of negative judgments I’d like to add to this and explore.

I believe we judge people/circumstances/situations negatively when we don’t understand them. When the person/circumstance/situation doesn’t fit into one of the many boxes we have in our minds.

We, as humans, love to put things in boxes. We love to label things.

We do this because if something doesn’t fit into a box, then it’s unknown. And anything unknown, according to the…