One of Man’s Greatest Fears is Dying With Regrets, Here’s How to Conquer It

Craig Stanland
6 min readMar 23, 2023

One of our most significant desires is to connect with and unleash our full potential.

We crave to stand in our power.

We harbor this desire because it’s innate to us; it’s who we are at our center.

We long and desire to embody and live from this place, yet we’ve been conditioned to do the opposite.

To shrink, to hide, to not stand out from the crowd.

The first word most babies hear is “Shh.”

As we grow, we understand fitting in is easier than standing out.

If we step outside the norm of our group, we risk being ridiculed and judged.

It’s better to follow the slice of lemmings than step outside the flow and forge our own path.

Our families, friends, and society erode our potential with the slow drip of phrases like,

“Don’t be cocky.”

“You can’t do that.”

“No one likes a show-off.”

“Who do you think you are?”

“Remember where you came from.”

And many more.

Each of these unto themselves is merely a drip; collectively, they create a river…



Craig Stanland

I write about my journey from corporate success to federal prison and finding joy, mission, meaning, and fulfillment beyond professional and financial success.