Reinventing Your Life Bite by Bite: How to Start Small and Achieve Big Dreams

Craig Stanland
3 min readDec 9, 2023

Imagine reinventing your life.

But how do you do it?

In the beginning, it’s daunting. It’s scary.

Overwhelm kicks in, and your voice of doubt and fear kicks in.

“I don’t know where to begin or how to start.”

“You’re not worthy of what you want.”

“Do you really want to fail again?”

“Who do you think you are?”

“People will judge me.”

If left unchecked, the voice of doubt and fear will rule your life and keep the life you want to live nothing but a fantasy.

Always in view and always out of reach.

Your brain is the greatest search engine on earth. When you want to start something new, it will find all the evidence from your past to explain why this new thing won’t work.

If your past rules your present, your future is already cast in the shadow of the past.

And this is where you suffer.

You can break this thought pattern, and here’s how:

You need a solid foundation on which to build. You need to trust yourself so that you know you’ll be ok no matter what happens.

How do you eat a watermelon? Bite by Bite. Start Small — Keep overwhelm in check.

You don’t need to find your passion or purpose right now. That’s way too much pressure at this point.

Get clear on how you want to feel every day.

Joy? Freedom? Fulfillment? Connection?

I want to be creative every day. I want to learn every day, feel physically challenged, be inspired, laugh, and connect with people.

So, I do activities that I know cultivate those emotions and feelings.

When you get clear on how you want to feel every day and act towards feeling that way, something extraordinary happens.

You begin to build trust in yourself.

When you trust yourself, you believe in yourself; when you trust and believe in yourself, you gain the confidence to reinvent.



Craig Stanland

I write about my journey from corporate success to federal prison and finding joy, mission, meaning, and fulfillment beyond professional and financial success.